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Love is Love, Regardless of Gender

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I have basically one political belief. And that is that gay marriage should be legal.

People do not choose who they love. They fall in love. They don’t jump in love. And if two people are in love, then they should have the right to show that love in a legally recognised way like marriage – no matter what gender they are.

Some people say that they already do. That they can already have their relationship legally recognised through a civil union. But that brings up the issue of equality. They’re not equal rights if people in same-sex relationships get an entirely different thing.

Some people say that marriage is a religious thing. That religion defines marriage as the formal union between a man and a woman, and that same-sex marriage defies that. But if marriage is so religious, then why can I get married? I’m not religious. I don’t believe in any higher beings. I’ll start believing this crap about marriage being religious the moment people like me are forbidden from getting married.

Some people say that people who endorse gay marriage are trying to redefine marriage. To them, I quote Cynthia Nixon, who said this beautifully: “Gay people who want to marry have no desire to redefine marriage in any way. When women got the right to vote, they did not redefine voting. When African-Americans got the right to sit at a lunch counter, alongside white people, they did not redefine eating out. They were simply invited to the table.” So why don’t we stop living in the past, and invite people in same-sex relationships to that lovely little table we call marriage?

Some people say that legalising gay marriage will encourage same-sex relationships. But like I said, people don’t choose who they love. Straight men/women aren’t going to marry some random other man/woman just because they can. They’re going to marry someone because they love them (or to get citizenship, but honestly, that happens already, so gay marriage is gonna have no impact on that). So that kind of ‘logic’ is absolutely ridiculous.

Some people take it even further, by claiming that legalising gay marriage will encourage all sorts of ‘horrifying’ relationships, like polyamory, polygamy, bestiality, and incest. Now that is just even more ridiculous. How can one type of relationship encourage another completely different one? That’s like saying that by tickling someone, you’re encouraging them to chop someone else’s foot off. So not related.

When I see people make arguments against gay marriage, I feel angry. It physically angers me. It angers me so much that finding out someone was against gay marriage would significantly lower my opinion of them. I don’t understand how anyone could be so selfish as to want to prevent other people from doing something, when that thing wouldn’t even affect them in the first place. Because same-sex marriage wouldn’t affect the people who are against it. I have never come across a gay person who was against gay marriage, yet all for straight marriage. It’s either all or nothing.

In my opinion, they have three options:

  1. Abolish all marriage.
  2. Give religious people in religious relationships marriage, and everyone else civil unions.
  3. Let couples get married, regardless of gender or religion.

You’d think it would be a simple choice. Religion would be too hard to monitor, so 2’s out. And surely people want to get married, so 1’s out. That leaves 3. See! What a brilliantly simple decision! But apparently some people fail to see that.

I’m straight, and I believe in gay marriage. Good luck meeting me if you don’t.

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I Am A Stubborn Person

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But not so stubborn that I can’t listen to people’s arguments, recognise when my opinion is the wrong one, and change it accordingly.

I used to think we shouldn’t be a part of the war. I wondered what the point even was in the first place. That we just jumped on America’s bandwagon. And while I still hate the idea of war – while I still think that no-one should be there – I now think that we have to be there. Australia is a tiny place. America is huge and powerful. We need them as allies. We can’t risk losing them by running away.

I used to be opposed to safe injecting rooms. I thought they would do nothing but encourage drug use. But then I realised – hang on, a druggie’s a druggie. They’re going to use no matter whether there’s a place for them or not. But at least it’s better that they shoot up in a safe place, with clean needles, than out there on the street where they could contract HIV.

I used to think cigarettes should be illegal. That if I took over the world, I would make them so. And God, I still hate that anyone smokes. The smell is disgusting. It’s addictive. And it’s absolutely horrible that people have to suffer through things like lung cancer and emphesema, and even die as a result. It’s horrible and I hate it. But cigarettes are taxed. A lot. And the government needs to get money somehow.

I used to hate the idea of child safety harnesses. That is, leashes for children. I thought it was a horrible thing to do, and that the parents were just treating their children like dogs. But then I heard the arguments, and now I realise that is so not the case. If a child is a runner, they’re going to let go of their parent’s hand. They might pull away, or seize their chance when their parent has to let go of them for the tiniest second. But either way, they’re going to run off. It’s much better that they have the freedom to run around while still staying close to their parent. And safety harnesses provide that. My sister was a runner – she had one. I wasn’t, so I didn’t.

Even my views on abortion are starting to change. Don’t get me wrong, I still think it is an awful thing to do. But if it were illegal, it would just result in women having dangerous, black-market abortions. And much like injecting rooms, it’s better if they do it safely. Because like I said in my original post regarding abortion, the mother’s health should always be put first.

So when my (stubborn-as-hell) opinion can change when listening to other people’s arguments, or, more importantly, when listening to plain, raw facts, I wonder why on earth it is so damn difficult for other people to change theirs.