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Game of Thrones is NOT Sexist!


Anyone who knows me and/or reads my blog knows that I despise people who find racism and/or sexism in everything they see. I find it absolutely ridiculous, and in all honesty, the practice itself is far more racist/sexist than the things it claims to be are.

Now, I am a huge fan of a Song of Ice and Fire (AKA Game of Thrones). But alas, even the genius that is George RR Martin cannot escape the scrutiny of those crazy ism-hunters. I have heard people say it is racist for depicting the foreigners as savages. I have heard people say it is sexist for depicting the women as inferior, or the badass women as ugly or plain (which apparently implies that ‘real’ women can’t be badass). Well to them I say “Pf! Stop picking and choosing things to pay attention to that fit your obsession with discrimination, and start appreciating the series as a whole, for what it is.

A Song of Ice and Fire is set in an alternate world, in a time period much like the Medieval era on Earth. And it’s a fairly well-known fact that women weren’t treated as men’s equals in the past. They were basically men’s property, and they certainly didn’t have the same career opportunities as women do now. So why should a fictional story set in a land similar to that era depict women as though they were from the 21st century? Hello? Anyone? I take it you’re all coming up blank right about now? Eeexactly. It shouldn’t. Although… A Song of Ice and Fire actually treats its women pretty damn well for that era. We’ve got the loving mother Catelyn who will do anything for her family. We’ve got the loving mother Cersei who will conspire like hell for hers. We’ve got the badass child assassin Arya on a slippery slope into chaos. We’ve got the pirate-like Asha who is married to her axe. We’ve got the priestess Melisandre, manipulating a king into following her path. We’ve got the Queen of Thorns Olenna, who is an absolute master at conspiring for power. We’ve got the Khaleesi Daenerys who is a favourite for the Iron Throne. We’ve got Brienne, who is one of the truest knights of Westeros, despite not being a knight. “But Brienne is ugly!” They say. “She can’t be an example of a feminist character! Brienne is ugly and therefore all badass women are ugly and and that means that real women cannot be badass because badass women are ugly and mannish and therefore only men can be badass!” Oh really? Firstly – have a raised eyebrow. Secondly – what’s wrong with masculine women? Thirdly – oh how bloody wrong you are. Because we’ve also got Dacey, a beautiful and elegant warror, Ygritte, a flame-haired wildling, and the fucking Sand Snakes. And what do you call Asha, Melisandre, and Daenerys, if not both feminine and badass?

Oh, and before I move on to the racism part of this, I would just like to have a quick word with all Sansa-haters. I don’t care if you hate her because she’s too weak and therefore not feminist enough. I don’t care if you hate her because she’s a whining bitch and should be doing more to help herself and her family. Whyever you hate her, just get the fuck over it. Okay, I admit it – I used to hate her too. But then her story got interesting, and she wasn’t just an antagonist to Arya anymore. And I realised something. In the beginning, when there wasn’t really much personal conflict, Sansa was just a normal tween girl. And later on, when she was caught up in everything, and either kept silent or lied about her feelings, she was just surviving. Sansa is a good character, a good female, and a smart, strong girl.

Now to the alleged racism. Here’s the thing – it doesn’t exist. You show me a bunch of savages from across the narrow sea? I show you a bunch of savages from beyond the wall. And then casually remind you about the not-so-local civilised folk from across that same sea, or down in Dorne.


How is this Progress?


A long time ago, it was expected of women that when they grew up, they would get married and have children, and that their job would be to stay at home and look after them. Women didn’t have careers – the men were the breadwinners. And for a women to not have children was unthinkable.

Nowadays, we have it ‘good’. Anyone can get a job. When a couple has children, sometimes the mum stays at home, sometimes the dad stays at home. Sometimes both the parents are women, or both the parents are men, so whoever stays home wouldn’t make a difference to that aspect. And sometimes no-one stays home, and it’s a nanny or babysitter that looks after the children.

A friend of mine posted something on her tumblr a while ago. When she was in high school, her class had to write down what they wanted to be in the future. My friend wrote down ‘housewife’, and was promptly criticised for it, even being called lazy.

Firstly, wanting to be a housewife is not lazy. Housewives have to cook and clean. They have to look after their children – watch them, play with them, comfort them, wash them, dress them, read to them, patch them up when they get hurt… And if they’re babies or toddlers, then just add change their nappies and feed them to the list. They have to do the household’s shopping, and with the children at that, making it all the more difficult. That is hard work. Housewives are not lazing around at home watching telly all day. They are being chefs, and maids, and baby-sitters, and teachers, and doctors, and chauffeurs.

And secondly, I thought the days were over when people had things expected of them, and couldn’t make their own decisions about the future? Women may not be expected to be housewives anymore, but that doesn’t mean our lives are playing into people’s expectations any less. Instead of being wives and mothers, we are expected to get jobs, and have careers. Nowadays, being a wife and mother is viewed as secondary, and nothing to aspire to.

I am currently studying a Bachelor of Arts at university, with a major in psychology. Not because I have any huge desire to be a psychologist, but because it is expected of me. Certainly, I find the subject interesting, but I would rather keep my house and look after my children than actually apply that knowledge to a career.

So tell me, how is it progress, when all we’ve done is swap one expectation for another?

Woman Against Feminism


I like to think of myself as quite a feminine person. I love getting my hair and make-up done, and going shopping for pretty dresses. I love getting dressed up in fancy dresses and high heels (even though I can barely walk in them). I love having long hair that I can curl, or pin back, or braid.

But I am not a feminist. I think the title might have made that obvious.

In theory, feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights, to create equality between the sexes. But in reality, that is so not the case. How many feminists do you see who want women to have more rights than men? How many feminists do you see who read everything as being sexist? And how many feminists do you see who are actually just anti-male, or against all things feminine?

It is for these reasons that I identify not as a feminist, but as a woman against feminism.